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    A Mother’s Day Collaborative

    Mother's Day

    In preparation for Mother’s Day, we asked members of GirlSpring’s Springboarders teen leadership group to write about their mothers through some writing prompts. We were pretty impressed with the answers and we want to meet these moms because they sound pretty awesome! 

    My mom is special because…

    My mom is special because she does not talk to a lot of people, but everyone likes her. She doesn’t eat the most, but she’s addicted to coffee. She doesn’t say a lot, but she make me laugh. She doesn’t always get the jokes I tell, but she smiles anyway. She doesn’t like the songs I listen to, but she plays them anyway. My mom is special because she tries to do everything. Alex’ah Boone

    My mom is special because she is very smart and always willing to learn. My mom can easily pick up on a skill and I admire that about her. Although she can’t help me with my algebra and French, she knows so much about the world and facts about things that shock me to this day. Liana Mozee

    Even though all moms are special, I think that my mom is extra special (I might be a little biased). She’s truly one of the smartest, strongest, and most patient people I know. I’ll admit that at times, I can be a lot to deal with. I’m moody and indecisive and extremely messy. Yet, on top of all her other responsibilities, my mom is always there when I need her. How she does it is beyond me. My mom really is the person I can rely on most in my life. Rachel Reese

    I think my mom is special because she is very loving and caring about letting me and my sisters express ourselves freely. Although, she is very religious she still loves me no different than my sisters and treats us the same. With it being three teenagers in one house with completely different personalities, she still shows us the same amount of discipline, care, love and of course support. She pushes us to be ourselves and follow our dreams and I wouldn’t trade her for the world. Brittney Hawkins

    My mother would rather have a _______ than flowers and chocolate 

    My mother would rather have a soundproof bedroom,than flowers an chocolate.That is because my mom loves her family so much,that she allows the children to share their loud ideas instead of shutting down their creativity. She wants the room, to be soundproof because she likes her peace and quiet when she’s thinking about the ones she gave birth to. Instead I will give her something else because despite all the screaming children, she loves when we make her laugh. Alex’ah Boone

    My mom would rather have art than flowers and chocolate because, as an artist herself, she deeply appreciates the beauty and meaning behind art, as well as the care put into making it. She loves to look at art in art museums and galleries, so art would be a great gift for her. Chloe Bloodworth

    If I were a mom for a day

    If I were mom for a day, besides telling everyone what to do, I would cook my favorite dinner, which is breakfast. I would cook enough for a football team just because I can. After I do all the cooking, I will make my children clean it all up. I would then start a how to be a cool mom instagram page. Alex’ah Boone

    If I were mom for a day: I’d do everything the same (or try to). I would love my kids unconditionally and nonstop, I would care for all their needs and wants, and I would make sure they live a life where they will love all and themselves as much I’ll love them (but of course I’ll be 5x worse, because my moms definitely a pro at this). Liana Mozee

    The best advice my mom ever gave me is…

    The best advice my mom has given me is to have love and respect for myself. She constantly reminds me of this and always has which has shaped me to the girl I am today. When I was younger I didn’t really understand the meaning behind it but now and the more I learn and grow I do. This one thing will forever be with me and it is the best advice she has ever given me. Brittney Hawkins

    Although it might sound cliche, the best advice that my mother has given me would be to believe in myself. Even though my mom has always been there to advocate for me when others might think I’m a lost cause, she’s also quick to remind me that she won’t always be around to defend me. She often says that if I believe in myself, everyone else will too (and if they don’t, it’s their loss). My mom constantly encourages to be confident in myself and chase my dreams. Rachel Reese

    If I could make a meal for my mom…

    If I were to make a special Mother’s Day dinner, I would make scallops and crab cakes. My mom adores seafood! For dessert, I would make lemon vanilla ice cream and I would giver her black licorice as an extra treat. Chloe Bloodworth

    If I could plan what to do for Mother’s Day with unlimited budget…

    If I had the money, I would take my mom to Paris for a Mother’s Day week trip. She loves the city and has said she could’ve stayed in Paris for weeks. I would take her to eat chocolate mousse and see many art museums. Chloe Bloodworth


    Write a poem about your mom…

    My mom controls my life like no other
    Only she does it with love and care 
    The way she make sure I’m okay at school and home
    Her calm voice when she disagrees with something dumb I did 
    Everything she does makes me better, and it’s clear to see 
    Ruling has never been so amazing for me

    Liana Mozee

    What’s the most poignant memory you have of your mom

    My mom has always been a super fun and outgoing person. Nothing fazes her and she’s always willing to put herself out there even in situations where others would be uncomfortable. I remember in fourth grade, going to carol at a retirement home during Christmas with my Girl Scout troop. All of us were really nervous and hesitant to sing. When it seemed as though all hope for a successful performance was lost, my mother swooped in and saved the day. She started to sing and, soon enough, everyone joined her (even the audience). By the end of the performance, I felt like my mom was a superhero. She really saved the day! Rachel Reese

    What is a life changing moment you’ve had with your mom?

    One of the most life turning moments with my mom was when I was placed and released from the hospital. Me being placed in the hospital was a big turning point in both of our lives, and when I got out we both just put everything on the table and even though it was a tough situation to deal with it weirdly brought us closer. Ever since then I’ve felt like I could tell her mostly any and everything. She has the biggest role in my life and I don’t know what I would do without her.  Brittney Hawkins

    Readers — how would you answer these questions? If you haven’t gotten your mom a gift yet, what about writing these out with your own answers and framing it? What a great gift! Need other gift ideas?

    Check out https://www.girlspring.com/mothers-day-gift-guide/

  • Confidence

    Please Don’t Tell Me to Smile

    Please Don't Tell Me To Smile

    Please Don’t Tell Me to Smile

    My Thoughts on Being Approachable

    Approachable. Is that what I need to be?

    No more of my time will be spent agonizing over comments that I am snobby, bitchy, and unapproachable. However, I think I’m over that now.

    I’ve been told that I come off as distant – uninterested in getting closer.

    The truth is, I don’t like attention from people I don’t like. That is what I’m uninterested in. It doesn’t appeal to me. I value my privacy and my space, and I’m prepared to give it up for a select few. It’s not because I think I’m better than anyone.

    I’m nice. As well as polite, curious, considerate and understanding. If you talk to me, you will see that I’m far from cruel. Anyone who wishes can approach me, and I’ll treat them with kindness.

    However, I admire and encourage attention from a select few.

    Why is this wrong?

    Why do I need to make myself available to the world, or to anyone who wishes?

    I am not a 24/7 gas station. I’m a person.

    Nor am I the door to a home – open, closed, locked; difficult, pliable.

    I don’t exist only to tend a doorstep.

    I don’t need to be decorated and passive.

    Show me a man under scrutiny for being unapproachable. Or is that unnecessary, since he is always the one who approaches?

    He walks, he chooses, and I sit?

    I will manage the door to myself however I wish.

    Most of all I wish to never be a door.

    I am a walking, living thing.

  • Body Image, Confidence, Health

    My Fitness Journey

    My Fitness Journey

    Learning the Difference Between Self-Sabotage and Self-Care

    When I was 14 I decided to make a change. Chubby and tired of being labeled “the chubby friend”, I started a 30-day workout video called “30 Day Shred” by Julian Michaels. I also downloaded the My Fitness Pal app to count calories. All of this was completely new to me and I had zero knowledge of working out or healthy eating.

    However, I did know that the Google search results on “how to lose 20 pounds in a week” were not working.

    Within the first week of counting calories and working out, I noticed results. Because I was in the ninth grade, my metabolism was probably in its prime. I just needed to put in a little effort because of bad genes. Thanks, Mom and Dad. Without realizing it, I lost 30 pounds in a month! Often, I lost motivation and did not want to work out, but watching the scale go down helped me to persevere.

    If you know anything about counting calories – you know that once you factor your weight loss, it lowers your calorie intake and so on. Ultimately, this created an obsessive behavior. As the weight continued dropping, I managed to still see myself as the chubby, 130-pound girl I was determined to erase.

    I was miserable. I constantly thought about food, and wouldn’t hang out with friends if I hadn’t worked out. If I missed one day of working out, I felt like I had gained 5 pounds. If I ate more than 2 slices of pizza I would take laxatives to make up for it. After diving straight into an incredibly unhealthy mentality, I didn’t eat cake on my birthday because I was afraid it would make me fat. I was afraid of food and terrified of gaining any weight.

    This went on for a while until I was miserable enough to confess to my sister – which wasn’t much of a confession because all I ever talked about was food and working out so she had already noticed.

    My mentality was so messed up. I started to research on maintaining my weight and tried to find stories about people who had gone through the same thing. I found nothing.

    It wasn’t until I came across a girl on Instagram who had just finished a workout guide called BBG. Grace had abs and that was what I was striving for. I worked hard and wanted abs to prove it. So I started doing BBG and I did not like it, at all. I thought the workouts were boring because I was a runner. I didn’t finish BBG but I continued to follow Grace and her fitness journey. BBG lead her to fall in love with lifting weights and cured her unhealthy relationship with food.

    Finally, I found my solution to this madness. Although the weight room was unfamiliar to me, I threw myself in. To be honest, I was clueless and felt like a man. Eventually, I  learned the correct form, put my headphones in and pretended to know what I was doing – using the Nike Training app as my guide. I fell in love with the gym. It became my stress reliever and my favorite part of the day. My body was sore, but seriously who doesn’t like that feeling? I felt so strong but just wanted to transform my body.

    Weight lifting resolved my eating issues. I fell in love with healthy eating and learned how to balance my meals and fuel my body according to my new active lifestyle. I stopped counting calories and solely focused on how my body felt and the nutrients I was consuming.

    It is incredible the way my body has transformed. Now, I workout 4-6 days a week and love it. Also, I’m much stronger and am learning a lot about form and technique with the help of Youtube and Instagram. It is crazy what you can accomplish if you just change your mentality. 

    Be healthy and take care of your body! WE can do anything. Girl power!

     

  • College, Confidence, GirlSpring.com, Goals, Mental Health, Puberty, School, Stress, Tips, Tough Questions

    Uncertainty is Actually A Positive Thing

    Uncertainty is Actually A Positive Thing

    By Maggie Thompson

     

    Being uncertain is a feeling with which we are all familiar.

    A looming pressure to know exactly what we want in life is placed on us as early as middle school – if not before. This question of what we want our lives to be is actually ridiculous. How could one possibly know what they truly want if they have yet to decide what they do not?

    Uncertainty is how we learn.

    When we acknowledge our uncertainty, we open the door for more opportunities. This is because knowledge is not obtained without first admitting its absence.

    Experiences shape our beliefs – on everything.

    Hesitating to wear a certain color, deciding to study before a test, and avoiding certain types of people are all decisions made due to past experience. We believe the color yellow is not flattering for our skin tone because we read it in a magazine, we study before a test to avoid a failing grade, and we choose not to befriend dishonest people so that we don’t get hurt. Regardless of how big or small the belief – it is formed by past experience. However, some of these beliefs will alter as we learn and grow. This is a good thing. Being open to new challenges provides a chance for a new perspective.

    As a result, being uncertain is the best way to unlock change and growth.

    Do not be afraid to admit uncertainty or lack of knowledge, for this is how truth is uncovered – through exploration. So when you are feeling down about not knowing exactly which direction to go, accept that some of the steps you have taken thus far have been incorrect. Although this feeling is initially terrifying, it begins to dissolve as soon as you take the first step into the unknown. Because before you know it, you will find yourself happier and more engaged with life.

  • Confidence, Fashion, Video

    Look AND Feel Like A Million Bucks

    Look And Feel Like A Million Bucks

    Look AND Feel Like A Million Bucks

     

    By Zharia McKenzie

    Zharia studies News Media at The University of Alabama. When not working towards her degree, Zharia gets to work alongside the creative minds at Free People – allowing her to style women in clothing that empowers them.

    Check out this cool video she made!

    Lilly Pittman, a senior stylist for Free People, give us a glimpse of the life of a stylist!

    Want to learn more style tips? Click here, https://www.girlspring.com/?s=personal+style

     

  • Confidence, Goals

    New Year’s Resolutions or New Year’s Goals?

    New Year’s Resolutions or New Year’s Goals?

    New Year’s Resolutions or New Year’s Goals?

    by Maya Kitchens, GirlSpring Springboarder

    It’s the time of year when we realize just how committed we are to our resolutions and goals!

    Having New Year’s Resolutions are very common for people as the clock strikes midnight on the night of December 31st and the early morning of January 1st. I myself have had New Year’s Resolutions, however, I have broken them pretty quickly. I’ve decided to call these “New Year’s Resolutions” something different. I’ve decided to call them “New Year’s Goals” instead. To me, goal sounds more positive than a resolution. The term “new year, new me” is very popular, but I don’t necessarily want to change, I want to accomplish more. Going into the New Year, don’t change yourself, maybe change the way you look at life. I’m going into 2019 with a more positive outlook on life, which in turn will make me more successful.  

     

     

     

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  • Books, Confidence, Lifestyle

    Harness the Power of Your Inner Goddess!

    Harness the power of your inner goddess

    Harness the Power of Your Inner Goddess!

    Girl power author Ashley Holt shares her secrets on soul strong living for girls in her debut young adult book, I am Brave: Soul Strong Living for Girls. Boost confidence, develop self-esteem, and find your inner goddess! This would make an excellent gift for you or a friend!

    Link to the book, here! Ashley was also one of our Wonder Women! Learn more about the career talks here!