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Uncertainty is Actually A Positive Thing
By Maggie Thompson
Being uncertain is a feeling with which we are all familiar.
A looming pressure to know exactly what we want in life is placed on us as early as middle school – if not before. This question of what we want our lives to be is actually ridiculous. How could one possibly know what they truly want if they have yet to decide what they do not?
Uncertainty is how we learn.
When we acknowledge our uncertainty, we open the door for more opportunities. This is because knowledge is not obtained without first admitting its absence.
Experiences shape our beliefs – on everything.
Hesitating to wear a certain color, deciding to study before a test, and avoiding certain types of people are all decisions made due to past experience. We believe the color yellow is not flattering for our skin tone because we read it in a magazine, we study before a test to avoid a failing grade, and we choose not to befriend dishonest people so that we don’t get hurt. Regardless of how big or small the belief – it is formed by past experience. However, some of these beliefs will alter as we learn and grow. This is a good thing. Being open to new challenges provides a chance for a new perspective.
As a result, being uncertain is the best way to unlock change and growth.
Do not be afraid to admit uncertainty or lack of knowledge, for this is how truth is uncovered – through exploration. So when you are feeling down about not knowing exactly which direction to go, accept that some of the steps you have taken thus far have been incorrect. Although this feeling is initially terrifying, it begins to dissolve as soon as you take the first step into the unknown. Because before you know it, you will find yourself happier and more engaged with life.
Lip Products You Will LOVE
My mom always stressed the importance of finding a good lip color. She told us our makeup look was never complete without the presence of a bright and bold color painted on our lips. So naturally, I’ve always stocked up on my lipsticks and never left the house without one. I have a lot of favorite brands so I am going to share the ones I am most obsessed with.
MAC Lipstick (Matte Lipstick)
These are a little pricey, but they are so worth it! This lipstick leaves a soft, light finish that doesn’t wipe off too easily and it also doesn’t dry your lips out. These lipsticks feel so good on your lips and you can feel the quality. These are my go-to lipsticks and I keep them in my purse at all times. My favorite shades are “Half-calf, Fam only, and Nutmegged.”
Urban Decay (Vice Liquid Lipstick)
One of my favorite lip brands ever! When I first received this as a Christmas gift I carried it around with me everywhere. It leaves a nice matte finish but goes on very smoothly and doesn’t leave your lips extremely chapped. It is one of my favorites. I love it in the shade “Backtalk.”
Milani (Amore Satin Matte Lip Crème)
You can find this at Walmart, Target, and Publix it is sooo cheap and it is amazing! It is only about $7 a tube and it lasts so long. It’s perfectly matte and went with every single one of my outfit looks. It would take so much to wipe off and would still be on after I ate dinner. It also has a really nice smell and it makes your lips smell like vanilla. My favorite shade is “Luxe.”
Jouer (Lip Creme)
I found this brand one day as I was scrolling through Twitter and decided to try it out. That was one of my best decisions. This lipstick smells so good and it lasts so long. It stays on throughout eating and drinking and they have an amazing selection of colors. This lipstick is so different from the others I tried and I will continue to order lipstick from this company. My favorite shades are “Bronze Rose” and “Terra.”
Buxom (Big and Sexy Bold Gel Lipstick)
I love Buxom lip products. Most of their lip products have plump in them so not only are they completing your makeup look, they are making your lips look good. This lipstick is so good I used the whole tube and bought another one, which I hardly ever do. It looks so good on and it feels so soft on your lips. I get so many compliments on the way it looks and the color. My favorite shade is “Rebel Rose.”
2019 – The Year of Organization
The beginning of the school year is pretty painless — you’re stocking up on notebooks and folders, colored pens and highlighters, saying this year is going to be different.
“This is the year I’m going to become organized.”
As the weeks go by, your class assignments start to pile up, your extracurricular activities strain your sleep schedule, and your social life seems to be waning by the second. The quickest fix might be to throw organization out the window, solely focusing on meeting deadlines by any means possible, but don’t do it! Putting your energy towards organizing won’t only ease your mind, but it’ll make your daily tasks and goals easier to accomplish.
A planner will be your best friend in this new, tidy phase of your life. Personally, I believe the best type of planner encompasses all of the tools you’ll need on a daily basis: a monthly calendar, weekly breakdowns, to-do lists and places for notes. A planner is essentially a pretty, portable lifesaver, helping you keep track of what needs to be done and reminding you when you have to do it. Mustering up enough motivation to update my planner each day has been a critical component of organizing my life– inside and outside of the classroom. Next, to the almighty planner, color-coding is a must. I fill up my monthly calendars with multiple colored categories: all subjects, social events, and mandatory events – like meetings. Not only can you glance at your calendar with a clear understanding – you can admire your craftsmanship at the same time!
While you can easily dismiss customizing a planner or beautifying a calendar – failing to manage your time wisely comes without recovery.
Dedicate a time of day or part of your week to a certain task or activity.
Have a free period during the day? Use that time to complete homework for another class.
Have free time after school before practice, but need some downtime? Try to Relax!
The key is to use the same time each week for the same activity. By developing this routine, it’s harder to stray from productivity.
It’s difficult to depend on our own devices 100% of the time. If a specific routine, a few colored pens, and a planner can help you become organized – why not take advantage of it? These aren’t ground-breaking tips, but if utilized correctly and regularly, they will completely turn your life around.
As a teen, it can be tough to shop for friends and family, especially when income is low. Here are some tips for gift givers who are on a budget:
- Find a way to make some extra money. Reach out to parents who may be in need of a night out so you can do some babysitting. Dog walking, pet sitting, or selling handmade greeting cards are also other options for some money you might need to buy gifts.
- Make a budget. Set aside an amount of money you will be willing to use for gifts. Write this number down. Next, make a list of the people you want to give gifts to. Consider a dollar amount you will want to spend for each person and write it below the name of each person. For example, you might put a larger number by a family member than by a teacher or friend. Then, add up the numbers. If you find that you are over budget, see the next bullet point.
- Make gifts. You can make gifts for everyone on your list or just a few in order to save money. Some homemade gift ideas include bath salts, baked goods, potholders, sachets, or art. Use your talents to your advantage. Many people love homemade gifts because they are so unique and cannot be found at a store.
- Split the cost of a gift with a friend or family member. This option is great if you want to buy someone a gift you might not be able to afford otherwise. It is also beneficial to the person you split the cost with because you both get to give the gift for less money.
Remember, the fact that you are giving someone a gift means that you care about them a lot, and the thought is always what counts the most! Have confidence in yourself and your gift-giving abilities. You’ve got this!
The Do’s and Dont’s of a Successful Friendsgiving:
Hold on…what is Friendsgiving? Friendsgiving is when you recreate a Thanksgiving meal with your friends. AKA another excuse to hang out and eat delicious food with your buds.
DO spread the responsibility:
Some of us are real go getters and love to handle all the details. That’s all fine and dandy, but it can become stressful when you run out of time, money or dare I say…accidentally burn the turkey. (I may be speaking from experience here…)
It’s a lot of fun when everyone contributes to the making of a meal. So, instead of putting the burden on one or two people to provide for everyone else, make it a potluck. With a potluck, everyone is in charge of bringing a certain dish, appetizer, side, dessert, drink or set of utensils.
It’s important to know that a friend might need to borrow a serving dish or your oven when they arrive. If you’re the host of Friendsgiving, make sure you know this information ahead of time so you can plan ahead. No one wants to watch the mashed potatoes get cold while they wait for the Turkey finish. (Again, speaking from experience)
Unless you are a descendant of Chef Gordon Ramsay (which if you are good for you), don’t feel the need to make everything from scratch. We all have good intentions in the beginning, but juggling all the different cook times can be tricky and before you know it the doorbell is ringing.
PSA: If you are like me and and cannot cook to save your life (no shame, I admit it) there is nothing wrong with getting a little help from the prepared foods section. Sprinkle some fresh herbs on that sucker and voilà.
DON’T (or try not) to have Friendsgiving after Thanksgiving:
Why? Well I don’t know about you, but after a typical Thanksgiving I’m toast. As in if I eat another bite, I will may not be able to get out of this chair.
Besides, most people when they take their last bite at Thanksgiving are on to the next wonderful thing. Christmas. The holiday all other holidays compete with. Bye-Bye pumpkin spice, hello peppermint. Know what I’m saying?
Not to mention, the holidays are a very busy time for most people and after Thanksgiving it’s difficult for people to make time in their schedules.
DO anticipate the supplies you will need:
Let’s be honest with ourselves for a moment. Friendsgiving is a feast. It’s better to be over prepared than run out of forks and have to eat with your hands. Coordinate with your friends and ask if they need additional serving utensils.
A few key items you may not think about until the day of. (Psssst…get them now so you don’t have a panic attack later)
-Platters and big serving dishes
-Napkins or Paper Towels if you’re a messy eater like me
-A good thanksgiving playlist
-An empty belly because nothing’s worse than staring at beautiful food and not getting to eat any
DO have Friendsgiving in a space big enough for everyone:
No one wants to bump elbows while they are trying to eat their meal. Have your friend with the biggest space or table host the event so everyone can be comfortable. Speaking of tables…here are some decorating ideas if you’re feeling festive.
SIDE NOTE: You can even get crazy and theme your Friendsgiving. Did someone say pajama-themed Friendsgiving? What about a Vegan Friendsgiving? The possibilities are endless, but if you are low key want to keep it simple. Gurl, keep it simple. If you want to go all out and create the Pinterest Perfect Friendsgiving. GO for it.
Share your Friendsgiving with Girl Spring and tag us on Instagram or Facebook!
Finally, DO help clean:
Whether you hosted Friendsgiving or not, it’s a good idea to help clean up. We’ve all seen the daunting pile of dishes after a big holiday meal. If you consider yourself to be a generally good person, why not roll up your sleeves and help get it done quicker?
6 Fail-Proof Ways to Find Your Personal Style
Being a teen is tough. There are so many questions that you have, about the world, about yourself. It’s a time of great emotional vulnerability because there are so many experiences you open yourself up to- who you are, your future, your sexuality, potential romance, the meanings of the world and finally, what it means to grow up.
At the same time, being a teenager is a time of great emotional strength, because these puzzling questions are difficult—and yet you are dealing with them. You are finding ways to express yourself and answer them, through art, sports, books, music, dance, video games, history, politics. Each of these outlets become personal methods of figuring out who you are. But the most visible way in which you can present yourself is in the clothes you wear.
Developing a personal sense of style helps you connect better with the person you are inside.
By wearing your style on your sleeve (pun intended), you can claim your own definitions. And yes: the pursuit for the right style is difficult, but you will find that developing your personal style is also a way of figuring out who you are. Here are a few ways in which you can find your personal style, and get closer to yourself.
1. Think About Yourself
Take a break from magazines and articles telling you what the trendiest thing is. Spend some time with yourself and make a list of things that you like and dislike, and rate them. Do you like metal music? Do you like lifting weights? If so, how much? If you find that these are things you prize highly, you can actually translate them into the clothes you wear. If you like metal music, you can start wearing customized t-shirts, featuring your favorite band. If you really like working out, you can wear t-shirts that say that. It does not matter how trendy these clothes are: they are reflective of you, and that is more important.
2. Look Through Your Wardrobe
Maybe, even after listing the various things you like, you find that there is nothing that exceptionally stands out. Or even if you do find something, you do not want to wear it on a t-shirt. This makes the next step very important: empty out your wardrobe, and spend a few hours figuring out what you like and dislike. You will find unexpected recurrent themes: maybe you are big on blue jeans or plaid shirts. You have multiple of these clothes because you likely feel most comfortable and happy in them. Retain these clothes as building blocks of your personal style.
3. What Do You Dislike?
With fashion, the apparel we tend to dislike is often because it highlights parts of us that we do not like. Perhaps you do not wear certain cuts of t-shirts because you think they make you look a certain way. Or maybe you are told that certain patterns do not flatter your body type. If these are your reasons behind disliking clothes, tell yourself that fashion and style can be revolutionary. Instead of shying away from certain garments, embrace them to challenge the very norms that tell you to stay away from them. Scary as this sounds, this will create a sense of confidence in you that no one can knock down.
4. Paint Your Own Story
A huge part of style is choosing certain templates for yourself. Do you like bright colours? Pastel colours? Monochrome? Based on these combinations, pick a few colours that you love. While initially building your style, style your outfit around these colours. Comfort is key in those initial days because that will help you evolve and develop your personal style. So, good style is primarily about confidence. Wearing colours you love will give you a sense of comfort and confidence.
Once you know what the overall style you want to incorporate is, figure out how affordable that look is. It is important to budget because while clothes are important, they can get quite expensive. If you find you and your family cannot really afford that one garment you really want, let go. There will always be lots of clothes to choose from, and one day you will be able to buy them all. As for your personal style, stick to basics that you can repeat. Buying a pair of boots, a scarf or a jacket that compliments several looks is smarter and more affordable than buying a dress you can wear in limited ways. There are also some basics you just can’t go wrong with. Gym apparel like well-suited track pants and tank tops, barely go wrong in casual settings and are always a worthwhile investment.
6. The Style is Always Evolving
Once you have decided on a personal style, leave yourself the room to wear something radically different. If you cannot decide on a personal style, know that this is okay, and not a permanent state. The style is constantly evolving, with our many moods and age. When you look back at your photographs from when you are eight, you probably dressed nothing like you do now; and eight years hence, you will probably dress very differently. Realizing this means that you will not be limited by your style, and instead, you will form a healthy relationship with your body and yourself.
Just remember: there will always be magazines telling you that certain things about your appearance aren’t great or fashionable, or stylish. At this point, remember your style, and how it is indicative of what you feel inside. Once you can do this, and be confident about it, you have found your personal style.