Do you ever meet a cute guy and his name starts constantly popping up on your phone accompanied by daily snapchats and fun gifs? Then suddenly he disappears? Your text is left on read and your snapchat streak is gone?
You have been ghosted, my friend. So, what do you do now?
I’ve been ghosted before and it left me asking myself what was wrong with me. I didn’t understand why he wouldn’t want to talk to me anymore. Your first instinct is to text them and get to the bottom of why exactly they vanished from your lock screen. But don’t. Most likely, you will get a harsh answer that was better left wondering about. If there is one thing I learned from boys and why they ghost you it is simply because they aren’t interested anymore.
With guys, sometimes if they aren’t feeling it, they want to run away. They are afraid that you have feelings when they don’t want to lead you on. Although, this often happens to a lot of people, it doesn’t mean it is the right thing to do. I know you may feel like you deserve closure. Or that there is the off chance that if you reach out you will continue to talk again, but that is not true. If a guy loses interest, he has most likely moved right along. So keep your head up and move on too!
After all, you want a guy who will pursue you and fight for you not just leave you hanging. There is nothing wrong with you if you have been ghosted and you are worth more than that. Hold out for the guy that will make you feel chosen.
First of all, knowing your worth and being confident in who you are as a person can help you combat the things that people comment on your posts. Being strong in who you are as a person is the first tool to beating those hateful comments. You may want to disable comments or delete your instagram for a while so that you can recharge and help your mind heal from instagram trolls. Sometimes a break can help you focus on you and do things that make you happy. Fill your mind with positive thoughts and dispose of negative things people comment or say about you. They are wrong.
Hurt people hurt people
Whatever mean comments people write behind the comfort of their phone screen is usually out of a place of insecurity and self-doubt. People that have the audacity to spread their mean opinions are usually hurting inside and are broken.
Don’t fuel the fire
I know the first thing that you want to do is comment back but don’t. Be the bigger person because the reason they comment those things is to receive a reaction out of you and to spark drama which could ultimately reflect your character if you engage in it. So ignore it because if you do then they don’t even know if you saw it.
Ignore the comments
Don’t even take one look at them. I challenge you to not even look at who likes your photos or who comments and see how your perspective on social media changes. Social media has become a competition for the best photos, the best life, and the most likes. Strip the competition away and have fun. Take photos of you laughing or eating an ice cream cone.
Know your worth
Realize that the things people say are meant to tear you down, but know that the things they say are lies. One person does not define who you are as a person and you should not let them have that power over your mind. Speak truth over who you are.
Think about your happiness
Post pictures because you want to share them with the world and because those pictures make you happy. Never approach social media for the likes or attention or for whatever you are lacking because it will leave you empty and always coming back for more.
Behind those phone screens, we are all people with real emotions and real feelings. Never be afraid to show the world who you really are. People value that more than anything.
Social media has changed the way we connect with people, but it can also make us feel lonely and less than. Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter all have so many pros but the one thing that rings true for all of them is that there can be awful and mean things said. Here are tips on what to do if you’re faced with them
Going into college, I knew my college experience wouldn’t look like the “typical” college experience. I didn’t live in a dorm. I moved in with a family member who lived close to my college. I didn’t rush to be in a sorority. Because of these circumstances, It was incredibly hard to adjust to a new city and a new life. Making friends was difficult after being with the same people for the past 12 years of my life. I was completely lonely and scared.
After an extremely emotional and anxious first semester, I heard about this internship/volunteering opportunity called “2:52.” The internship was associated with Church of The Highlands and it consisted of a group of about 60 college kids. We gathered on Monday nights for Chapel to grow in their faith and in community and be poured into. Then, on Thursday nights, we had the student-focused church service called “ONE.” There, we could serve and pour out to other students who were looking for the same things we were: a community, faith, and Jesus. I took a leap of faith and signed up… I had no idea I would find everything I had been looking for in high school, and throughout my first semester of college, there.
During this Internship, I gained so much more than expected
The internship has molded me into a leader and taught me how to seek after Jesus on my own. It taught me to not rely on a church, a building, or people to shape my relationship with God. Rather, it’s a personal walk. I was able to serve my community and learn to be selfless by helping others. I made friends who were after the same things as me. I made friends from different backgrounds and states and who had different stories than me. I learned that you could find friends that truly cared about how you were doing and looked out for your best interest. In two semesters, I lead a small group and now am leading within the internship. I have come extremely far from where I started and now have the boldness and confidence to do things that I had always been afraid of before.
I found who I was without living a typical “crazy” college lifestyle. Now, I run next to people who are chasing the same things. We have all gone through things and pulled each other back towards Jesus when we’ve fallen. I found out that a relationship with Jesus doesn’t have to be pretty or perfect. It just has to be real. No matter your condition, He is always waiting to meet with you. God has a purpose and a plan for your life and the fun part of the journey is discovering what that is. This internship has grown me and shaped me a prepared me to be whatever God is calling me to be and that is life-changing.
Hair scarves are such an easy and quick to elevate your summer look. You can wear them as headbands, tie them around your ponytail or bun, the possibilities are endless! Here are five of my favorite places to buy hair scarves from:
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Anthropologie Anthropologie has the cutest hair scarves and scrunchies. I get compliments on mine all the time. I love them!
Free People Free People has their own unique style, so these hair scarves are super cute and really different. They also have so many to choose from, you can’t stop at just one!
Urban Outfitters Urban also has a very different style and selection, which will guarantee that you will be different from everyone else!
Asos I love shopping on ASOS and these hair scarfs are so adorable you cannot pass them by. They are reasonably priced and you will for sure need them to complete your summer outfit.
Love Beauty and Planet is my latest obsession. Their products are centered around your hair and body. My favorite products are the shampoo, conditioner, and body wash. It smells so good and the smell is so strong that it lasts throughout the day. Not only do the products smell so amazing, but they are also good for you. They use natural ingredients and avoid using harsh chemicals that do damage to your skin. The shampoo and conditioner make your hair feel so soft and smell so good. You can tell that the products are organic and healthy for your hair and body.
This company is positively impacting you and the world around you:
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The bottles are recyclable and biodegradable. They are reducing the carbon footprint that plastic is causing on the planet.
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Sensitive skin is not an issue. These products have got you covered and will nourish your skin no matter what type you have. There are no sulfates, parabens, silicone, or dyes. All of those can harm your body so you using these products will not leave you worried. They are vegan and made with organic coconut oil. The products are moisturizing and the ingredients have a positive effect on your skin.
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These products are cruelty-free and not tested on animals. So, you can use this product guilt free.
You can find this brand at Target or Publix. It has been life-changing to my shower routine! If you need other ways to up your shower routine check out our article on skincare tips.
Having a crush is exciting… but what are some signs that he is crushing on you?
He pursues you
As in pursue, I mean he actively makes an effort to be around you. He texts you every day or every other day or constantly snapchats you. Whether you are at school, church, or whatever organization you’re involved in, he seems to be around you. Not in a stalker way, but in an “I like you I want to get to know you kind of way.”
He asks about you, your favorite color, restaurant, food, or candy and he pays attention to the answers. If he is constantly asking you questions and digging to find out more about you then he likes you. One thing I learned is most guys aren’t interested in only friendship with girls.
He talks to your friends
Does he ask your friends about you or ask what you think about him? When he asks around about you then it means he cares and he wants to be with you or at least take you out on a date.
He asks to go get lunch or dinner
If he asks to go eat, especially alone, then he likes you. I used to think all guys wanted to be my friend so if they took me to eat and paid then they were just being nice. WRONG. They aren’t typically just “being nice.” Them paying is a sign that they like you and are counting this outing as a date…unless they specify otherwise.
He introduces you to his friends
His friends are super important. They are his bros and the guys he shares most of his information with. If he introduces you to them then you aren’t just a “friend” he wants to show you off and he is interested.
He is excited
If your crush is talkative and fun around you and sort of being goofy, then he likes you. Guys don’t show that side often unless they are wanting to make you laugh and impress you. Obviously, it depends heavily on their personality, but you can tell when most people are excited. If the excitement is there and the chemistry aligns then you can tell he likes you.
He shares his favorite music with you
Making mixtapes and burning CDs for someone has always been a huge way to express how much you care about someone. So, if he is sharing his Spotify or Apple music playlists with you and wanting you to listen to the new songs he’s found then he is into you. Guys don’t just share their music with anyone.
It is easy to feel out whether someone is into you. Simply noticing their vibe and the way they carry themselves when they are around you is a sure way to tell. Sometimes you just need to go with your gut and feel it out, but if he is not making any moves and putting in no effort towards your relationship then he is not into you. Don’t try to make something happen that is not there. Many think because guys aren’t making a move that they need to do something and that couldn’t be further from the truth. You are beautiful and you deserve a guy and that is willing to fight for you and do everything they can to get to know you. Never settle.
So, you and your crush are talking and what’s next? Here are some first date tips.
It can be confusing to flirt when so much of it happens on the phone, so here is a video with tips for texting your crush