She leaves as she lives, without being noticed Many wish that she could’ve known this: She was loved truly and deeply by many of her peers, Though it was hard for her to see this through her depression and her tears, She left many scars the day that she committed, More than all the scars she had previously hidden, She left her family in turmoil, stuck wondering why, All her pain couldn’t have just vanished but they could’ve tried, To do something or anything but this, Now they no longer have their baby girl to hug and to kiss, I left this character only as she, Though there are many names that this could be. Many wonder now for a simple solution, What’s the best way to kill all the confusion, How can we promote awareness without hurting the cause, How can we put self-harm plans on pause, I don’t have the answer but someone will soon, In the meantime know that someone loves you, And if you’re struggling please use your voice, Know that you’re not alone, and suicide’s not the right choice.
If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, the crisis line offers confidential help and someone to talk to.
Crisis Line: 205.323.7777; Teen Link: 205.328.5465 (specifically for teens).
I’m not going to lie; there have been moments in my life where I’ve been a negative person. From being convinced that I could never get my driver’s license because of my terrible parking ability to complaining about my confusing math proof assignments, I have had my fair share of frustrating experiences that I’ve let myself get far too carried away with.
Through all these experiences, however, I have learned that negativity has never led to positive outcomes.
Having a negative attitude has prevented me from being able to face my challenges head-on. It’s also caused others around me, like my parents, to not be as supportive because they do not appreciate the way I am choosing to handle my problems. Positivity is key to accomplishing anything good in life. Therefore, it is very important to always try to stay positive- even in times when things aren’t looking so great. Here are eight reasons why a positive attitude is so important:
Energetic, Active Mind: It is a fact that people who maintain a positive attitude are more curious and aware of the world around them. These individuals can see past themselves and gain a better understanding of the way life around them operates. Therefore, they are able to be better thinkers and are more creative.
Ability to Develop Meaningful Relationships: People like being around positive people. Individuals who radiate positivity are able to make themselves and others feel good about them. I always love when my friends are positive about both themselves and about others. It lets me know that they are confident and proud of who they are, and are able to appreciate others. It is a good balance, and I think this type of outlook is important for any good relationship.
Better Health: People who have a positive attitude tend to have lower stress levels and other issues in their lives. They stay healthier and maintain a better sense of well-being because they see taking care of themselves and seeking out a good life that they are satisfied with as important.
Better at Overcoming Obstacles: People with positive attitudes are able to view obstacles as regular parts of life that everyone goes through. A positive attitude allows individuals to overcome these difficulties in life and increases people’s ability to persevere. As the saying goes “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.” True to that, having a positive attitude can help an individual face anything that comes their way with good spirit.
Increased Productivity: When individuals have a positive attitude, they are able to set goals for themselves and work towards achieving them. Staying positive allows an individual to believe in themselves and their abilities, and work towards overcoming obstacles as they come. This reduces procrastination and leads to more productivity.
People See You As Valuable: In today’s hyper-competitive, stressful world, nearly everyone appreciates positivity. When someone shows that they are able to stay positive in tough times, they will be considered valuable by potential employers. An employee with a positive attitude is a great asset because they can get along with others and be productive.
Greater Satisfaction With Life: With positivity, people are able to appreciate themselves and the things around them better. Individuals with positive attitudes are able to take a greater amount of self-control over their lives, and they are able to live their lives the way they want. This would allow them to follow their dreams and achieve their definition of success. What is life if it’s not worth living?
Is there really such a thing as the “perfect body?” Even models and actresses who are deemed to be the pinnacle of beauty are judged and insulted on the covers of magazines, the Internet, and entertainment TV shows. Most of the pictures we see are airbrushed or photoshopped, anyways.
We See the Infatuation with Our Bodies Everywhere… Since Before We Can Remember
If even our idols are body-shamed, is there any hope for us “normal” people? If stars have to alter their bodies to feel comfortable in their own skin, how are we expected to?
Allow me to let you in on a little secret: the perfect body doesn’t exist. It’s a myth. It’s a fabrication.
Nowadays, Instagram models, fitness gurus and everyone in between strives to achieve body perfection with a small waist and big butt. But guess what? The nineties were all about big boobs, long legs, and thigh gaps. Before then, especially during the fifties, the “hourglass figure” was all the rage. Dating all the way back to the Renaissance, you exhibited your status and wealth through your weight; being well-fed was the ultimate test of beauty.
Marilyn Monroe, one of the most well-known sex symbols, would be considered “fat” by today’s model standards. Let that sink in.
Need help keeping up a positive body image? Look at some ideas here!
Just because We See what’s ‘Ideal’ doesn’t mean We Have to Be That
Although society always seems to have its own opinion on beauty, none of it really matters. Loving yourself and embracing the body you’re in is the highest form of perfection.
Some girls are always going to carry a little extra weight on their stomach, regardless of how much cardio or toning they do. Some girls will have cellulite and stretch marks their whole life, but others might devote their energy towards gaining weight, forever unable to do so. Girls with naturally bigger boobs might save all their money to receive a breast reduction, while others dream of buying implants their whole life.
No matter the body type, every girl spends years and years trying to come to terms with how they look; some never reach clarity and acceptance. In this era of social media, body-shaming and comparison worsen the issue.
It may take some time, but we all need to make more of an effort to embrace not only our bodies but everyone else’s as well, supporting other girls whenever we get the chance. There will be some difficult days, but we all need to accept the same mantra: every body is the perfect body.
Everyone’s journey to being healthy is different, check out one girl’s story here.
I used to think I was just a perfectionist; each situation had to be planned out to the last detail, homework and projects had to be done flawlessly, and conversations had to flow exactly the way I imagined they would in my head. I fooled myself into thinking I was simply trying to take control of my life, but in all actuality, my anxiety was controlling me.
In the past, I constantly worried about every little thing. In fact, I was more anxious than I had ever been after realizing just how bad my anxiety was. While my mindset is much better now, I still have my bad days, just like everyone else.
Anxiety is a dark cloud that looms over all of us. When someone glances at us for a second too long, we automatically resort to worrying about our appearance. We constantly panic about our future, relationships and education. The main thing to realize is that although we all may suffer with anxiety from time to time, our worries don’t define us. At all.
Based on a study from National Comorbidity Survey Adolescent Supplement, data discovered that young women are more likely to suffer from anxiety than young men; while only 26 percent of males had displayed an anxiety disorder, 38 percent of women were affected.
Under these unfortunate circumstances, it’s crucial to remember that everyone feels this way at some point in their lives. Since anxiety is so common, it’s easy to find someone to relate to and communicate with.
From personal experience, I’ve found the quickest remedy to anxiety is releasing those negative emotions. Whether you’re more into individual expression, such as journaling or artistic outlets, or collective communication, such as confiding in a close friend, speaking your worries into existence can help to rationalize and comfort. Many people might even have advice or comforting words from dealing with their own anxiety experiences.
Hey there readers! My name is Bielle and I’m a teen lifestyle blogger currently trying to manage her way through high school!
For the past few years, I’ve dealt with my own mental health and emotional health struggles. I’ve been dedicated to taking care of myself in a positive way, which is what made me realize the importance of self-care. Self-Care is something that is so important for everyone. Taking care of myself helps me understand and appreciate myself more as well as those around me. It is my journey of self-care that has encouraged me on the journey to loving myself.
At first, I found it difficult to incorporate self-care habits into my daily routine. Now, I have weekly Self-care Sunday’s! In this post, I will be sharing with you my Self-Care Routine and how to build your own!
As mentioned before, my self-care day is Sunday. Sunday is a day where I can relax and prepare for the upcoming week. My no-stress day. Here is what a typical Self-care Sunday looks like for me:
Drink water as soon as I wake up
This one is super important and I’ve started doing it daily! Tip: Drinking water as soon as you wake up really gives you the energy you need!
Have a hearty & healthy breakfast
Do a face mask
Tip: If you want to be adventurous, you could try making one of your own using eggs, honey, & sugar!
Taking a nice shower (Blast those tunes!)
Personally, I am trying to be very aware of my environmental impact so I make sure to take short showers during the week and leave longer ones for Sunday! Tip: Hot showers are very soothing if you are feeling anxious!
Clean your space (make the bed, straighten up your desk, tidy your closet, open those curtains, etc.)
Paint your nails or cut & file them
For some reason, painted nails really make me feel happy, so I really enjoy this step!
Organize outfits for the week
Since I attend a school that requires a uniform, for this part I just try to decide what hairstyles and jewelry I want to wear for the week.
Do your weekend homework & try to get ahead in your most important classes if you can!
Tip: I always try to start studying for my hardest classes 2 days in advance! This almost always requires weekend studying but if you plan out your time, you can make sure it doesn’t conflict with your much needed free time!
Exercise & Yoga
I usually do this during the evening. My exercise routine includes yoga poses that help build my upper body strength and leg stretches! These typically last around 10-15 mins! Occasionally I will do an upbeat dance routine that I find on YouTube! My yoga routine is just the Full Sun Salutation done three times.
I love meditating so much! Meditation grounds me and helps me be in the present. I typically try to meditate every Tuesday & Thursday night before bed because it helps me fall asleep easier.
Read a book
I love reading, but I often find myself unable to indulge in the hobby during the week. Reading right before bed is so calming and really boosts my creativity.
Go to bed early
I cannot stress enough how important it is for teenagers to get a healthy amount of sleep! The right amount of sleep can change your life!
So that’s my Sunday Self-Care Routine! While binge watching Netflix and snacking like no tomorrow are also part of my weekend plans, I try to make sure they don’t get in the way of my self-care time. Some weeks I’m able to complete all of these tasks, and others time, I struggle. The point is that in life, sometimes we find ourselves struggling with finding the time to truly appreciate ourselves. Self-Care can help you build the bridge to loving yourself, at least that’s what it’s done for me!
Building your own routine is easy! You can designate a certain day just for your routine or you can try to spread out your self-care practices throughout the week. To make the most out of my time, I always plan backwards from when I want to go to sleep. The sleepyti.me website really helped me organize my sleep schedule and my whole daily routine in general!
Self-care consists of a bunch of different things! If you want to focus more on your mental health, I would recommend crafting a routine including meditation, journaling, self-help books, & podcasts! If you want to focus more on being healthier, I would try to include healthier eating options in your routine as well as some exercising or stretching! If you really just want a Self-Care routine that boosts your happiness, try setting a day to do things you enjoy and spending some time to get to know yourself on a deeper level. Some other helpful self-care ideas include: Drinking tea, making plans with your friends, making a vision board, immersing yourself in nature, listening to music, doing an artistic activity, learning about or trying something new, and taking a phone break!
Overall, what you do for your self-care practices are completely up to you!
Remember: Self-care helps to self-love, and loving yourself is a beautiful thing!
Hope you all enjoyed this post! For more of my content, you can check me out on my blog, How To Live Your Life! You can also follow me on Instagram @bloggerbiellev & on Pinterest @biellev. For more self-care advice, check out my Self-Care Pinterest Board!
Girls undergo some emotional breakdowns which may be related to relationship issues, low self-esteem, problems at work, tight curfews by parents, trying to impress their friends, and even worrying about getting married when their biological clocks are ticking! The female gender loves attention, and failure to receive it can derail them emotionally. Therefore, they need to find a constant source of happiness and satisfaction to help them cope with the challenges in their day-to-day lives.
Here are some of the top 10 rapid stress relief that girls can try out:
Going for a ride
Research has proven that connecting with nature and pumping up some adrenaline in the system can be an excellent way of relieving stress. Thus, the best way to go about it is hopping into a car with a friend and hitting the road. The vehicle should be at high speed on an isolated road to avoid being irritated by traffic jam which may increase the stress levels. Besides, they can always hire a car if they do not have one. It is a must do for every girl who is stressing out because of the various reasons mentioned above.
Taking a walk
Walks should be taken in the evening when there is less commotion in the area. Girls can do this within their neighborhood or wherever they please. Walking helps in elevating the moods of the females which eases their levels of depression. Another reason that makes walking a mandatory stress-reliever to try is that it aids in releasing endorphins making the person involved in the exercise happy. However, the pace should be fast to increase heart rate which also helps with hormonal balance.
Girls’ night out
Girls can choose to have dinner together, go clubbing, hang out anywhere in the city, or decide to go to the movies. With this, they get to spend quality time with their loved ones as they participate in the activities they cherish together. Also, having the people they love around them dilutes tough situations that they are experiencing hence making them enjoy life the more.
Snuggling with a pet
Another essential tip is adopting an animal either a dog, cat or any other that they may prefer. It is an activity that has proven to release hormones that introduce a gentle spirit for the girl.
Consider a spa night
Spa dates can be expensive, but they can still do it at home to minimize on expenses. The easiest way is it to buy scrubs and prepare homemade face masks, use the best diffuser to diffuse essential oils to create that well scented and relaxing atmosphere, and take some wine or any drink of choice. These will make her feel relaxed and free from the pressures of life. But she can also spice it up by taking a bath in a tub with candles around. The beauty and ambiance that these bring are enough to make life less stressful.
Get to the kitchen and cook something
Cooking is a creative exercise that makes people explore their abilities. But for it to be interesting, they have to prepare meals that take less time to make and which require minimum skills for the activity to be enjoyable. Some of the foods to consider cooking include sandwiches, burgers, salad, cakes, blending juice or smoothie and even coffee. All these will keep their minds off the stress. Therefore, girls should try this stress-relieving hack.
Go shopping in a mall
Malls are beautiful places packed with all kinds of commodities. Seeing beautiful stuff that most girls have always wanted will automatically make them feel good about themselves. Also, they can merely window shop as a way of planning on what to buy next.
Read a good book
Reading books helps with engaging the mind which is a way of killing idleness. But the plots of these stories must be intriguing to prevent the reader from getting bored. It will automatically ease stress especially when the victims connect well with the characters in the stories.
Put some loud music and dance to it
They say music is a drug that almost everyone gets high on and girls are not an exception. Therefore, it is a rapid stress-relieving tip that they must try out. But it is more fun if they do it with a friend or a sibling for them not to feel lonely. With this, their moods will be elevated especially when they sing along and scream to the top of their lungs.
Take a nap
Rest is as good as a change, and sleeping is the best way to relieve stress. It helps the whole body to relax including the brain hence rejuvenating to better body functioning.
Last May, I had the opportunity to attend the “Dear Evan Hansen” event at TIME magazine in New York.
The event was held in order to discuss the importance of recognizing the effects of mental health on teens. Rowan Blanchard, Disney channel’s star on Girl Meets World, was interviewed during the event as a guest speaker. She answered a question about her own experience in coping with mental health. In her response, she gave her thoughts on why mental health has become so prevalent among teens.
During the interview Rowan spoke with compassion about the implications of mental health, specifically on young girls.
Rowan is not surprised “that girls are sad because there is so much stigma to be happy.” She stressed to the audience that it is okay to be unhappy at times and not be perfect. Her talk emphasized the importance of recognizing to not blame teens for any mental health problems. Rowan highlighted the fact that too often do girls feel like they are the “problem” and are to blame. Girls can drown in guilt and should be empowering one another as opposed to feeling ashamed.
Rowan touched upon her own experience with mental health and that for her the best way to cope was talking to her parents.
Rowan acknowledged the fact that she knows parents may not be an option for everyone. However, when it comes to sharing how they are feeling simply talking to anyone can help. Find people who want to help you feel better. Talking to others about how you are feeling is one of the healthiest ways to get better. Even though it is difficult, because it puts you at your most vulnerable state, it’s helpful.
The interview concluded with Rowan stating, I finally feel like “I can just be.”
She expressed how although she may still face mental health struggles from time to time, she feels comfortable in her own skin and expressing the raw, uncut, and true version of herself. Whether it is through social media, meeting fans, or interviews, she does her best to always put forth the most genuine version of herself in order to show young girls that it is ok to be exactly who you are and it is ok to be perfect not ok all the time.