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    Life After College

    “What are you going to do after college?”

    Eight simple words. Every college student has been asked this universal question by friends and family alike more times than they can count. It was a question that plagued my mind on two separate occasions.

    The first time was near the end of my junior year at Loyola University New Orleans in 2015. I was sitting in the career counselor’s office, thinking of the options that were given to me. I wasn’t interested in joining the military, so my remaining choices were grad school or hopping into the workforce. In the end, I chose grad school because I yearned to learn more about creative writing and enhance my craft. In March 2016, after countless applications and sleepless nights, I was accepted to Columbia University’s MFA Writing Program!

    The second time the question popped up was as I was nearing the end of my second year at Columbia two years later. There seemed to be a weight on me. A finality that wasn’t present the first time. I wasn’t planning on obtaining another degree, Master’s or Ph.D., after completing my MFA. For me, that meant, as a lyric from “The Schuyler Sisters” from the Hamilton musical goes, “work, work.”

    I spent the second year of grad school applying for internships, any internship but received rejection after rejection. After returning home in May 2018, I received the call of a lifetime. I would be the New Media Editorial Intern for Marvel Entertainment! I ran around the house that day. I would be spending my summer in one of the coolest places in New York, but as the saying goes, all good things must come to an end. The internship wouldn’t last forever; August 23rd was my last day in Marvel HQ. Back to the drawing board.

    So, what am I doing now? I’m currently living in New York, which continuously surprises me, and balancing a few jobs. I’m a Quality Assurance Coordinator at a social work agency, a Freelance Writer for Marvel (thanks to my previous internship there), creating articles for their website, and recently added Freelance Editor to my job list, editing a variety of documents like resumes, essays, and personal statements for college applications. When I have free time, I’m working on the third draft of my sequel to my first book, FATE, and writing short stories. In summary, I’m pretty busy, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Although I’m not where I imagined I’d be right now, career-wise, I appreciate every moment that has led me here. Where my journey begins doesn’t necessarily mean it’ll be where I end. I look forward to the next stage of this wild adventure called life.

  • Bullying, GirlSpring.com, Health, Mental Health, Social, Technology

    Dealing with hurtful instagram comments

    online bullying

    First of all, knowing your worth and being confident in who you are as a person can help you combat the things that people comment on your posts. Being strong in who you are as a person is the first tool to beating those hateful comments. You may want to disable comments or delete your instagram for a while so that you can recharge and help your mind heal from instagram trolls. Sometimes a break can help you focus on you and do things that make you happy. Fill your mind with positive thoughts and dispose of negative things people comment or say about you. They are wrong.

    Hurt people hurt people

    Whatever mean comments people write behind the comfort of their phone screen is usually out of a place of insecurity and self-doubt. People that have the audacity to spread their mean opinions are usually hurting inside and are broken.

    Don’t fuel the fire

    I know the first thing that you want to do is comment back but don’t. Be the bigger person because the reason they comment those things is to receive a reaction out of you and to spark drama which could ultimately reflect your character if you engage in it. So ignore it because if you do then they don’t even know if you saw it.

    Ignore the comments

    Don’t even take one look at them. I challenge you to not even look at who likes your photos or who comments and see how your perspective on social media changes. Social media has become a competition for the best photos, the best life, and the most likes. Strip the competition away and have fun. Take photos of you laughing or eating an ice cream cone.

    Know your worth

    Realize that the things people say are meant to tear you down, but know that the things they say are lies. One person does not define who you are as a person and you should not let them have that power over your mind. Speak truth over who you are.

    Think about your happiness

    Post pictures because you want to share them with the world and because those pictures make you happy. Never approach social media for the likes or attention or for whatever you are lacking because it will leave you empty and always coming back for more.

    Behind those phone screens, we are all people with real emotions and real feelings. Never be afraid to show the world who you really are. People value that more than anything.

    Social media has changed the way we connect with people, but it can also make us feel lonely and less than. Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter all have so many pros but the one thing that rings true for all of them is that there can be awful and mean things said. Here are tips on what to do if you’re faced with them

  • College, Confidence, GirlSpring.com, Goals, Mental Health, Puberty, School, Stress, Tips, Tough Questions

    Uncertainty is Actually A Positive Thing

    Uncertainty is Actually A Positive Thing

    By Maggie Thompson

     

    Being uncertain is a feeling with which we are all familiar.

    A looming pressure to know exactly what we want in life is placed on us as early as middle school – if not before. This question of what we want our lives to be is actually ridiculous. How could one possibly know what they truly want if they have yet to decide what they do not?

    Uncertainty is how we learn.

    When we acknowledge our uncertainty, we open the door for more opportunities. This is because knowledge is not obtained without first admitting its absence.

    Experiences shape our beliefs – on everything.

    Hesitating to wear a certain color, deciding to study before a test, and avoiding certain types of people are all decisions made due to past experience. We believe the color yellow is not flattering for our skin tone because we read it in a magazine, we study before a test to avoid a failing grade, and we choose not to befriend dishonest people so that we don’t get hurt. Regardless of how big or small the belief – it is formed by past experience. However, some of these beliefs will alter as we learn and grow. This is a good thing. Being open to new challenges provides a chance for a new perspective.

    As a result, being uncertain is the best way to unlock change and growth.

    Do not be afraid to admit uncertainty or lack of knowledge, for this is how truth is uncovered – through exploration. So when you are feeling down about not knowing exactly which direction to go, accept that some of the steps you have taken thus far have been incorrect. Although this feeling is initially terrifying, it begins to dissolve as soon as you take the first step into the unknown. Because before you know it, you will find yourself happier and more engaged with life.

  • Portfolio

    Fear of Failure

    Fear of Failure

    by Paige Kouh, featured contributor

    There is one piece of our lives that is so strong and so powerful, that it has the power to hold us back from living life to its full potential.

    Failure. Failure is the fear that unites us all and can catch us at our most vulnerable times. As humans, we encounter so many obstacles throughout our lives. Yet, we allow something so simple to eat away at our self-confidence and build a wall between our dreams and reality. Overcoming the fear of failure is the key to reaching success.

    Whether it is failing a college exam, not passing driver’s test, or messing up an interview, we all face failures. No matter how perfect someone might appear to be.

    Failures are the steps to finding success and force you to grow in the process of learning from your failures. Over time, the idea of failing has been marked with the negativity and a condescending reputation. However, how are we expected to evolve and build upon our intelligence if we never have any mistakes to learn from.

    As scary as it may seem, failures can be some of the most valuable parts of life.

    It takes time. However, learning to face the fear of failure head-on will allow you to jump fearlessly into new adventures. Hopefully, it will enable you to find more happiness within the darker times that life presents us. It is important to remember that it is possible to view failures with a positive mindset. In some way, failures hold a piece of beauty in the sense that they allow us to eventually find the good in the bad, giving us hope that life will get better.

    Do not let the fear of failure restrain you from discovering your own potential.

    Do not let fear keep you from exploring your own destiny. Do not let fear overpower you.

  • Portfolio

    3 Hard Truths About Drinking Underage

    3 Hard Truths About Drinking Underage

    by guest blogger Josephine 

    At some point in our teenage years, we become introduced to the idea of alcohol. In some cultures, families introduce wine to their children at a somewhat younger age and in doing so will give them a small glass of wine at dinner time. It teaches them to be responsible drinkers in the future. In most countries, the legal drinking age is 18, so as soon as they are adults, they can drink legally and responsibly and also start to learn about what kind of drinks they like. In American culture, we are stereotyped as reckless drinkers who party all of the time. This stereotype is not entirely true, but the legal drinking age being 21 makes some people not be able to learn how to drink moderately and responsibly at a young age and instead some people take it and go crazy. This law also imposes some dangers on anyone under 21 who may try and drink anyways. Not only is it illegal, but as teenagers we tend to think we are invincible when in reality we are not, so sometimes we feel that these dangers do not apply to us. These are the three hard truths about drinking underage as not only Americans but as teens in America.

    #1. Jail is a real possibility – If you are in possession of alcohol or have alcohol in your system, you will get arrested. If you are driving with alcohol in your system, then you will get a DUI no matter what no matter how little alcohol is in your system. When you are not responsible if you drink underage, it can put you behind bars and ruin your personal record.

    #2. You won’t truly have fun if you aren’t being responsible, no matter what age – Not only is jail a possibility when drinking underage but the morning after can reveal any bad decisions you made the night before. When you are new to drinking and are figuring things out on your own, you may not know about certain things like the severity of a hangover or what that one drunk text can do to your dignity. You may have fun for a moment or two but if you aren’t responsible the consequences can surpass the fun you had the previous night. This is one of those things that most people end up learning the hard way.

    #3. People have died from drinking too much and drinking recklessly – This is another “you aren’t invincible” piece of advice. Those who lose someone from alcohol-related incidences tend to be more careful when they drink; I know some people who don’t drink at all because they lost someone due to reckless drinking. These types of incidences can include drunk driving, alcohol poisoning, or even raging drunks who have hurt others while under the influence. Whatever you do, don’t pose a threat to yourself and especially those around you.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with drinking when you are being responsible, and even more importantly you are in a safe space and/or with people who you feel safe around. We all love having a glass of wine with dinner or having a beer with friends. Nonetheless, the drinking age is 21 and you will always have the possibility of putting yourself in danger when you decide to pick up a drink until you reach that age. It can be easy to stay sober in high school, but harder once you graduate and you have older friends. Just remember to remain cautious and always stay aware of your surroundings. If you are being reckless, you are not only putting yourself at risk but those around you as well.

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    ADJUSTMENT! By: Kristen Gardner (UAB Intern)

    ADJUSTMENT! The word that seems so distant, but yet so relevant to our everyday lives. Every single year as the new year begins, we have to get adjusted to the things that the new year brings. Starting another year of middle school or high school comes with new responsibilities, sometimes new friends, new expectations and new relationships. Sometimes these things can be very exciting or it can make us feel nervous for our future. Here are a few tips that I have on becoming adjusted.

    1. GET A PLANNER! I did not realize how unorganized I was until I got a planner. I thought it was a stupid idea at first until I actually started writing in it daily. It keeps me on schedule with my everyday life and it helps me not forget the important things.

    2. Set some GOALS! Sometimes we can feel unfocused or lost because we do not set any goals for ourselves. Set a short term and a long term goal for yourself and stick to it. The end result will feel AMAZING!

    3. Be open to a NEW year! I know this may sound a little cliché, but sometimes we limit ourselves on the countless opportunities that we may have with a new year. A new school year can bring us countless new experiences that we have never experienced before.

    4. Be open to making new friends! This is a big one! I remember thinking that I would have the same friends forever. I never really tried to make new friends until I came to college and WOW I was missing out. The greatest adventure is getting to know new people and making new memories. Now I’m not saying get rid of your best friends but it does not hurt to open your social count of friends.

    5. Realize that you are a different person than you were yesterday! But seriously tho! My greatest challenge was learning that I will continue to change. I may not like the same things ten years from now or I may hate the same restaurant that I just loved a week from now. This is totally normal. Is it okay to CHANGE! It is okay to try new things. It is okay to find yourself!

    6. And lastly make MEMORIES and HAVE FUN! A new year always comes with an opportunity to make new memories and to try new things. Take advantage of this because before you know it, we will all be saying goodbye to high school and college and will be adults in the real world one day!

  • Books, Photography

    Book Review: Open Heart

    Towing the line between life and death. Dr. Stephen Westaby weaves a tale of his most riveting encounters in the operating room in Open Heart. Not only is Westaby a brilliant heart surgeon, but he is also a talented writer. Coming from a humble background, Westaby rose up the ranks through his innovative approaches to heart surgery and his pioneering work with the artificial heart.
    What struck me the most about this memoir was the way Westaby made heart surgery as riveting as a BMX race. Even with all of the complicated vocabulary and approaches mentioned, Westaby manages to make his most complicated surgeries understandable by the average lay person.
    The stories within Open Heart are filled with moments of heartbreak and joy. Open Heart was the first ever medical memoir I read, and let me tell you – it was amazing. This book has made a surge to the top of my favorite summer books list this year. I am so sure that all of you will think the same, especially if you’re considering a career in medicine!