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    20 Things To Do Before Turning 20

    20 Things To Do Before Turning 20

    20 Things To Do Before Turning 20

    Take Advantage of Having No Worries While You Can

    Before I left my teenage years, I was able to accomplish many goals along with crossing-off several bucket list items. Most of one’s high school memories shape them into the person they will become. Once high school ends and college begins, free time starts disappearing.

    Getting older doesn’t mean less fun, it just means dealing with multiple aspects of life that didn’t exist in high school. Living alone, working to pay bills, and balancing time between school and social life is why young adulthood carries the connotation of figuring out life.

    Teenage years are perfect for trying new things, making memories, and having the type of fun experienced only when carefree with little responsibility.

    20 Things To Do For YOU Before Turning 20:

    Stay Up All Night.

    Whether it’s to finish an assignment or talking for hours with friends – at around 3 AM, the silliness from lack of sleep will show itself. Allowing yourself to be silly is an important step in self-empowerment.

    Go On A Road Trip with Friends.

    Make unforgettable memories with friends in an unfamiliar place. Without family, it’s easy to understand what a vacation feels like.

    Get A Real Job.

    While the traditional lifeguard or camp counselor is great over the summer, a real job teaches the importance of making your own money.

    Kiss Someone on New Year’s Eve.

    Sure, this is a plotline for many cheesy rom-coms, but who hasn’t wanted to experience this at some point?

    Binge-watch an Entire TV Show in One Night.

    Although some would say binging TV is embarrassing, there’s nothing more rewarding.

    Travel Outside the Country.

    It’s crucial to experience other cultures. Plus, this is how the best memories are made.

    Go To A Music Festival.

    Spending a day or three in a happy-go-lucky environment is one of the most carefree experiences.

    Journal Every Day.

    Journaling is the quickest way to get in touch with one’s emotions.  Filling up every page in a journal and reading your thoughts is essential in self-reflection.

    Learn a Foreign Language.

    This is a life skill that will come in handy at the most unexpected times.

    Do A Digital Detox For The Weekend.

    Camping in an area without cellular service, or just turning off devices, allows one to be completely present.

    Have a Meaningful Conversation With a Stranger.

    It can be surprising how interesting other’s lives are and the quality of advice they can give.

    Conquer a fear.

    Whether the fear is big or small, conquering a lifelong fear creates the possibility of accomplishing anything.

    Learn to Play an Instrument.

    Just for fun and to impress people.

    Go to a Movie Alone.

    It’s crazy that something so simple can offer such a sense of empowerment.

    Learn to cook.

    It’s something that everyone needs to learn at some point. We can’t survive on ramen noodles and peanut butter toast forever.

    Forgive Someone.

    Although it may seem difficult, you’ll feel ten times better without the weight of carrying a grudge.

    Take Pictures at Every Opportunity.

    Someday all of these memories will be gone, but these mementos will remain. Collect as many as possible.

    Go on a Walk Without a Destination.

    Connecting with nature and being present can heal in unforeseen ways.

    Reconnect with Old Friends.

    Connecting with old friends can create an everlasting friendship, or confirm the reason you grew apart. Either way, it’s a beneficial experience. 

    Learn Self-Love.

    This one is tough, and it always will be. However, the more you work on it in your teen years, the easier it will be in the future. Your twenties will present experiences that cause you to question everything, but as long as you have self-love, you’ll be able to persevere.

  • Body Image, Health

    Society and Unrealistic Beauty Standards

    Society and Unrealistic Beauty Standards

    Nowadays, it isn’t uncommon to see how a young woman’s body standards can be so easily influenced by outside factors. Ever see a girl scrolling through celebrities’ Instagram pictures and hear them say, “They’re so flawless, I want to look just like her”? This scenario happens every day with teens and young women. Although some might express this as a light-hearted and innocent comment, some truly want to change their appearances to please society and their peers to be more desired and fit in better.

    This isn’t to confuse with wanting to improve someone’s appearance for a positive reason, such as a healthy weight goal or changing the way one does makeup to enhance their beauty more. The problem arises when a girl wants to change how she looks due to seeing unrealistic perfection or because of the constant pressure from society’s standards of beauty.

    It is no secret that, for years, the beauty industry has given this idea of looking flawless 24/7 to impressionable young women. We grow up looking at beautiful magazine covers, gorgeous makeup ads, and perfect looking hair, nails, body, etc. Although it’s understandable for a company to want beautiful models to sell their products, it gives off unrealistic beauty standards. Why? Because regular people on the street don’t usually look how companies and social media portrays women to be! If you don’t have an hourglass shape, that’s okay! If you don’t have white, straight teeth, that’s okay! Everyone is unique in their own way and should not change who they are because of what society says is “the best.”

    Since social media is so prevalent among celebrities and young people, it worsens the problem even more. Different types of apps allow filters, editing, and photoshop. If a girl wanted to improve her appearance online, she has the tools to do so. This applies to physically altering one’s appearance as well, whether it be through plastic surgery, injections, fillers, etc. Of course, most celebrities do not like to admit that they have used certain measures to make their appearance seem better, but the girls viewing their content can easily think that “this is what perfection looks like, society likes this type of look, and I want to obtain it too.” These types of thoughts usually make girls compare themselves to others, and that is not a healthy thing to do, self-esteem wise.

    Thankfully, companies are starting to realize the self-deprecation girls and can feel while looking at beauty ads or models selling clothes. More and more companies are allowing diversity into their ads, and this gives off a very positive message to young women who do not always fit the “perfect body type” or other types of standards that society has deemed to be “perfect.” Many people, including myself, are applauding these companies for their realistic models that look like the majority of people and not the small niche of beauty and fashion models that have a very specific and hard to obtain look.

    This is a great step in the right direction for the beauty and clothing industry, and more companies should follow their example. The good thing for girls is that if you are aware that today’s beauty standards are unrealistic, then you won’t be as influenced. You can recognize that there are so many different looks of being beautiful. One person’s ideal may not be someone else’s. Don’t be focused on pleasing everyone else. It’s okay to focus on yourself! Self-love is very important for self-esteem and one’s mental health. Sometimes we’re so focused on little details, like always covering up your body or always covering up blemishes that they can take over our lives. Just be yourself, be happy with who you are, and everything else will fall into place.

  • Dating, Depression, School, Stress, TRENDING

    February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

    Girlspring is Supporting Dating Violence Awareness!

    February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month! Teen DV Month (sometimes called TDVAM) is a national effort to raise awareness about abuse in teen and 20-something relationships and promote programs that prevent it.

    Dating violence is more common than many people think.

    One in three teens in the U.S. will experience physical, sexual or emotional abuse by someone they are in a relationship with before they become adults.

    Help us spread awareness and stop dating abuse before it starts!

    In February 2017, loveisrespect will be celebrating its 10th anniversary! So, we thought we’d get back to basics. Our theme for Teen DV Month 2017 is Love is . . . Respect. We’ll be talking about what respect means and why it’s so important in a healthy relationship – online and off. We hope you’ll join the conversation!

  • Depression

    Your Guide to Dealing with Depression

    What does teen depression look and feel like?

    When you’re depressed, it can feel like no one understands. But depression is far more common in teens than you may think. You are not alone and your depression is not a hopeless case. Even though it can feel like depression will never lift, it eventually will—and with proper treatment and healthy choices, that day can come even sooner.

    Signs and symptoms of teen depression

    It’s hard to put into words how depression feels, and people experience it differently. There are, however, some common problems and symptoms that teens with depression experience.

    • You constantly feel irritable, sad, or angry.
    • Nothing seems fun anymore, and you just don’t see the point of trying.
    • You feel bad about yourself—worthless, guilty, or just “wrong” in some way.
    • You sleep too much or not enough.
    • You have frequent, unexplained headaches or other physical problems.
    • Anything and everything makes you cry.
    • You’ve gained or lost weight without consciously trying to.
    • You just can’t concentrate. Your grades may be plummeting because of it.
    • You feel helpless and hopeless.
    • You’re thinking about death or suicide. (If this is true, talk to someone right away!)


    Is your friend depressed?

    If you’re a teenager with a friend who seems down or troubled, you may suspect depression. But how do you know it’s not just a passing phase or a bad mood? Look for common warning signs of teen depression:

    • Your friend doesn’t want to do the things you guys used to love to do.
    • Your friend starts using alcohol or drugs or hanging with a bad crowd.
    • Your friend stops going to classes and afterschool activities.
    • Your friend talks about being bad, ugly, stupid, or worthless.
    • Your friend starts talking about death or suicide.


    If you’re suffering and don’t know where to turn…

    In the U.S., call the TeenLine at (800) 852-8336. It’s free, confidential, and available from 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM, Pacific Time, seven days a week.

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