New Year, new you! How to be Your own Person in High School
The key to being yourself is to remain open-minded.
The truth is that there is no way to feel alone when you can create a lane and walk within that path. Standing out is hard, and it takes a lot of confidence to embrace yourself. Some people enjoy getting told what to do, but that is not the case for everyone. Always remember that no one can ever be you. Life is too short not to be able to express yourself in the way that you want. Thankfully, I was inspired by different kinds of people like those who participated in cosplay and dressed up in costumes at festivals. I found friends who are not average or conventional. It is essential to remember that being your own person is necessary and important even in spaces like high school and middle school.
Being young and knowing yourself is a quality that we all need.
It is a character trait that you need to carry into adulthood. Some people have allowed themselves to be taken advantage of solely because they didn’t know themselves. Essentially, the earlier, the better.
Surround yourself with people who support who you are.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of being around people because you don’t want to be lonely or because you want attention. Both those are false illusions. Wasting away on people who don’t want better for you will only cause a sense of displacement. Make a list of traits that you value, or a list of things you look for in friendships and keep those thoughts in mind as you go out and socialize. Make a list of everything that you want to improve on. Surround yourself with people that will make you be and feel better.
Lastly, understand that change requires growth.
There were times where I felt so uncomfortable in high school. It made me feel so scared of the world and what it had to offer. I thought that people were trying to attack me and make me feel little. It felt like I had no one to shield me from the possible harm that I could face, or had no one to sit me down to talk to me about things that I had questions about such as sex and sexuality. I just felt misunderstood and like no one wanted to hear me, but I had to learn that I valued my own voice enough to trust my gut. But I learned that it was all apart of the experience and that there was nothing to be afraid of. The world is yours if you make it over in that image. Find some time to do something, and love on yourself with open arms.
This is such great advice! When you have a strong sense of self you are far less likely to succumb to peer pressure in tricky situations. It also makes it easier to find those supportive friends who will last a long time.January 27, 2019 at 8:42 pm