As you are learning being a teen is fun and difficult. Being the parent of a teen is fun and difficult, too. Your parents dislike the fights and difficult times just like you do. You’ll probably bring a smile to your parents face when you let them know you want to get along.
Some ideas you may find helpful when dealing with your parents include:
– Avoid starting sentences with, “Everyone else…” Your parents care about what’s best for YOU.
– Be agreeable when possible. Look for opportunities to say, “That’s true,” or, “Good idea,” or “I see what you mean.”
– Give occasional compliments. Even “That looks nice,” or “That was a great meal,” can lift a mood and mean a lot to your parents.
– Be as responsible as you can be. When you act like an adult, this will likely help your parents see you the way you want to be seen.
– Finally, don’t always try to have the last word. It is not easy to change patterns, but it is possible.\
When a situation with your parents or anyone for that matter is escalating, try to remember the acronym, H-A-L-T. Don’t have a heavy conversation when either of you are H (hungry), A (angry), L (lonely), or T (tired). Perhaps you and your parents can agree to this before getting into a disagreement.