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  • Photography

    Undressing in Gym Class

    Undressing in Gym Class

    If you’re anything like I was in middle school, you dread[ed] having to change in front of the other students during gym class. It wasn’t because I felt like other girls were “checking me out” or being judgement, most of the problem came from how uncomfortable I was with my body. For some girls, it may be something else, such as a religion or just being timid in general. All in all, the root of the problem is the lack of instruction on how the situation could be handled or avoided.

    I ended up pretending to be sick quite a few times, just so I could go see the nurse while everyone was changing. I even missed the school’s Scoliosis Screening tests each year, because I didn’t want to have to take off my shirt in front of the other girls or adults. As it turns out, I have a mild case of Scoliosis and could have been treated for my pain a long time ago with proper physical therapy. Instead, I played hooky with an ear infection and spent years with unidentifiable pain.

    It wasn’t until high school that I discovered a few solutions to my problem:

    • The other girls are more than likely not going to watch you change, in the same way that you probably don’t notice the other girls changing.

     

    • There are bathrooms available to change in in most locker rooms.

     

    • It is okay to be a different body size than the other girls, just as it is okay to have different marks on your body.

     

    • If you still do not feel confident changing in front of other people, then try putting your gym shirt over the one you are wearing without putting your arms through the holes. Remove your arms from the other shirt’s holes and proceed to put them through the gym shirt’s. Then slip the other shirt either over your head or over your waist until you have removed it.

     

    • If you need to change bras, follow the same routine as the shirt, just add an extra step.

     

    • You can also wear your gym shirts/bras/shorts underneath whatever you choose to wear to school. Just be sure to wash them nightly or twice a week.

     

    • If you have friends, try asking them to hold a towel for you to change behind, and offer the same courtesy.

    I found this video with instructions on how to best change in a locker room for additional help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igbN_rPcwT0

  • Social

    First Dates: A Tutorial

    First Dates: A Tutorial

    What does a first date mean to you? To me, going on a first date is the first real chance you have at getting to know someone. The actual date may not be as common as going to the movies and getting dinner, there are other ways to romantically get to know someone. I remember my very first “first date”. It was near the end of my freshman year of high school, and this boy I had met through a mutual friend invited me out to dinner. With permission from my parents, I agreed to go out with him.

    I was so nervous. I did not know what to wear, how to do my makeup—if I should wear makeup—where we would go, or if I was going to be expected to kiss him at the end of the night. I wasn’t sure if I would be ready to kiss him. I had even considered cancelling the date and just asking if he wanted to hang out with a group of friends sometime rather than being alone. But I didn’t.

    I flipped through every single article of clothing I had in my closet and ended up trying a few on. Nothing seemed to fit the mood right. Blue jean shorts felt too casual, my homecoming dress was too formal, a tank dress fell a little too close to casual, and my black blazer would make it feel like an interview. So, when all else failed, I went to my sister. Today you could just use Pinterest for outfit options.

    My sister said to just wear something cute and comfortable. Do you know how vague that is? Very.

    I eventually settled on a black camisole, a white cardigan, and a blue jean skirt. It may sound unfashionable now, but it seemed alright back then. It ended up being both cute and comfortable like my sister suggested. I didn’t have to change my personal style to fit for the date’s mood, which is important when someone is trying to get to know you, and vice versa.

    The next item on my list was the makeup issue. I didn’t wear a lot of makeup in high school, mostly because on weekends my Show Choir group would wear tons of it for a single performance. But during the school days I wore a little bit of eye liner and some mascara. Pretty much nothing has changed, aside from what makeup I wear to professional events. I believe a natural face can be just as beautiful as wearing makeup. Whatever feels comfortable to you, is what you should do.

    The guy I was going to be seeing knew what my face looked like on an average day, so I decided to dress it up a little bit. I watched a short tutorial on Youtube for how to do makeup, and then began applying those techniques to my face.

    With my outfit down and my face embellished, I was ready to see where the night would take us. He had planned for the two of us to eat at local Mexican restaurant. Just dinner, nothing else. I was completely okay with this. First dates are not supposed to be how extreme the other person can be when planning, but to have some time to talk in a comfortable environment. That is not to say that you can’t do fun and exciting things for a date, just try to give time to talk on the first one.

    As the night was coming to an end, we talked about what things we favored, what we are passionate about, where we see ourselves in years to come, and we even gave each other personal compliments. It felt like a huge success, and I was already planning on seeing him again.

    When it came time for him to drop me off at my home, he walked me to my door and let me know how much fun he had that night. He leaned in slightly, so I knew he was inviting me to meet him the rest of the way if I wanted. Instead, I was not yet comfortable enough to kiss him back, so I said goodnight and that I would like to see him again.

    There was nothing weird about the situation. He backed away at a comfortable pace and smiled with understanding. There is no rule that states you must kiss your date on the first one or on any of them. It is something that is nice and will come naturally with time.  We did end up going on a couple of more dates after that night, and I eventually met him halfway.

    If you are ever in need of some first date/dating advice check out these tips:

    • Only say yes if you absolutely want to go out with them. You are not obligated to “give someone a chance”.
    • Pick an outfit that feels like you but give it a little bit of an extra touch so that the other person knows you’re just as excited about the date as they are.
    • If any part of the date makes you uncomfortable, do not be afraid to say something.
    • Always come prepared to pay. Even if the person you are going out with invited you, you should be ready just in case anything happens. This brings me to my next tip,
    • The responsibility of paying typically goes to the person who invites the other person on whatever date is planned, unless you have both agreed to split the tab, or some other arrangement is made.
    • Don’t be afraid to be the one doing the “asking out”. It does not matter what gender you identify with, if you want to go on a date with someone, then just ask them.
    • Healthy Dating Tips: https://www.girlshealth.gov/relationships/dating/index.html
  • School

    A Feminist’s Guide To Buying Clothing Ethically

    If you’re a member of GirlSpring then chances are you identify as a feminist, which is great! What’s fun about that is wearing clothing that shows your passion for women’s liberation. But as a feminist, it’s majorly important to buy from clothing brands that don’t use exploited worker labor. How would you feel if you bought a shirt with the phrase, “This is what a feminist looks like” only to later discover that it came from a sweatshop that employed underpaid and overworked women? This isn’t a random example by the way, something like this already happened. Read more here:

    https://www.theguardian.com/sustainable-business/sustainable-fashion-blog/2014/nov/03/feminist-t-shirt-scandal-exposes-entire-system-exploitation-elle-whistles-fawcett-society

    Does this mean that you should avoid buying feminist apparel altogether, or more generally clothing from any brand? Of course not. It just means you should buy from brands that you know don’t use exploited worker labor. You should also try to expand that to all of your buying habits including the food you eat to ensure that you are always using your money wisely. That can also include doing necessary research to find out if you are buying from places that use exploited worker labor, which most people can agree is bad. So without further ado, here are the best places to buy feminist clothing that don’t use exploited worker labor.

    GreenBox Shop
    This clothing company is responsible for a design you might have seen before, the, “Why be racist, sexist, homophobic, or transphobic when you could just be quiet?” shirt is gaining popularity. The website describes the company as a social justice apparel company that is completely fair trade.

    Check out their stuff here: https://greenboxshop.us/

    Aurora Lady
    This clothing company puts out clothing made by the same person, the woman who founded the company. Her work reflects her passion for social justice, and I’d highly recommend you check out her Etsy shop and her website’s shop. Even if you don’t want to buy any feminist clothing, you should check out her website for the incredible visuals alone.

    Check out her website’s clothing store: http://www.auroralady.com/wearables/
    Check out her Etsy shop: https://www.etsy.com/shop/AuroraLady

    Feminist Apparel
    This shop is actually pretty well known. It supposedly is 100% ethical and fair trade, and had a bunch of different clothing options to choose from.

    Check their website out here: https://www.feministapparel.com/

    Femininities
    This brand emphasizes messages of intersectional feminism, which is awesome. One of their shirts talks about the wage gap in a way that is very interesting and depends upon the race of the person making the purchase. What that means is that when buying the shirt, you must pick your race which then changes the amount on the shirt. For example, the white/ asian options says, “You owe me 21 cents” while the black option says, “You owe me 36 cents.” Basically, it accounts for the way in which the wage gap is racial instead of just being about gender.

    Check out their website here: http://www.femininitees.com/shop/

    My Sister
    The slogan for this brand is this, “feminists who are tired of exploitation”, and they do their best to donate to organizations aimed at helping women and girls around the world. Part of their earnings go to programs designed to give more opportunities to victims of sex trafficking, which is a very noble cause to support.

    Check out their website here: https://www.mysister.org/collections/shop-all-clothing

    Please note I found out about these brands from these articles:

    Ethical Alternatives to Mainstream Feminism Apparel ft. GreenBoxShop and More

    5 Feminist Fashion Brands With Awesome Ethics